My parents divorced when I was sixteen.
I set my college applications aside and felt devastated as I watched my friends go off to school.
I began my career in sales and became a top producer moving up the corporate ladder. Not having a degree wasn’t an issue because if you produce no one seems to care…
...But I cared!
When people asked where I went to college, a knot would form in my stomach. I’d do anything to avoid that conversation!
In my early thirties, I decided I was going to get a degree for me.
I discovered Executive MBA programs with weekend classes that are designed for business people. Boom, that’s it! I’ll take the GMAT and use my business experience as leverage to get accepted.
A friend informed me: “You can’t get an MBA without an undergraduate degree!”
There it was again...that twinge when someone crushes your dream...but that wasn’t going to stop me.
Imagine dropping the anchor, and tumbling backward off a boat into the ocean to go scuba diving.
While under the water, you constantly look back to make sure the anchor is still in view. Eventually you get taken by the moment and stop checking. Time passes by and the undercurrent has carried you away...
...it was too late.
You ascend to the top of the water, only to find their boat practically beyond view...
Our lives can be carried away by the “cultural current,” too, without even realizing it!
Step back and ask:
Your answer may be very different from what you are living.
It’s easy to go along with what everyone else is doing because we feel like that’s what we’re supposed to do.
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Where are you in your life?
A podcast asked “are you living or merely existing?”
It’s sad to say but many of us just exist.
Why is that?
We get caught up in the daily grind, i.e. the rat race, huh?
Is that really how you want to live?
I’m sure the answer is “NO”. I mean come on, wouldn’t we all love to live like Richard Branson, the CEO of Virgin Airlines, who is out there skydiving, and going on safari...
Or maybe like Oprah, doing amazing things like opening the leadership academy in Africa, funding thousands of young people’s college education, and presenting at the Oscar’s...
Okay, so those examples may seem really out there but there is a lot us “average Joe’s” can do to be more purposeful and fulfilled in our lives too.
Many people get motivated to fulfill their dreams only when something tragic happens.
I’m not going to wait for...
It was one of the most interesting dinner conversations...and my whole family had fun and participated! My husband, 12-year-old son, 10-year-old daughter, and I were enjoying each other’s company - “Wow!” I thought, “This is what it’s all about!”
Too often, people at social gatherings are either playing a game on their phones or checking their social media. Why is that? Kids stare at their phones because they are “bored.”
If we asked good questions and then listened, then asked more QBQ – question behind the question - we’d learn more about what makes each other tick.
Isn’t it great when someone is interested in what you have to say and truly listens?
Sometimes we can feel stuck in conversation and default to asking the standard: “How was your day? What’s new?”
You know, the questions that receive one-word answers or superficial responses.
When that happens,...
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We sold our home, our cars, gave away the majority of our belongings, and bought an RV and jeep to travel America.
To most people, this seemed like a pretty radical thing to do but at the time, it was “not up for vote”.
My world felt completely out of control…
- a job that was dominating my life
- the demands of sports, school and other obligations.
- a constant state of stress and negative bandwidth
Maybe you can relate?
I literally felt like I could have had a nervous breakdown...It had to stop!
I was sacrificing myself and my family to please others.
I had this fantasy that by getting rid of most everything and simplifying, life would be nirvana. We did simplify big time and that is great! We have been in some of the most beautiful places: Yosemite, Grand Canyon, Redwoods, La Jolla, CA, and experienced amazing activities like ATV’ing in Sedona, parasailing in the Keys,...
It’s 5:00 pm on the Friday before the holiday weekend. I’m sitting at my desk; I just finished a report that I have to present to Executive Management next week. My brain is fried as I’ve scrambled to complete it on top of all the other responsibilities as
The list goes on...sound familiar?
I don’t want to think about it. Right now all I want to do is enter a vegetative state while I lie on the couch and watch HGTV.
But there’s a pool party in the neighborhood and our children are now begging me to go…
Ughhhh, that is the last thing I want to do!
My husband - being the smart guy that he is - says, “Honey I’ll take them, you stay home and relax.” What an awesome man!!
After they left, the twinge of guilt set in and I said to myself: “just go, it’ll be fun.” I really didn’t feel that way, but figured if I said that enough than maybe...
We can focus on what we have OR we can focus on what we don't have.
We can focus on what has gone right OR we can focus on what has gone wrong.
But the determining factor to happiness in our lives?
When we get into a negative mindset, we can choose to shift!
Do you know someone that has everything...but they’re miserable because they focus on the "one thing" they don't have?
"Right now someone is praying for the things that you take for granted."
That quote really struck me because regardless of what is happening in our own lives there's always someone that wishes they had the blessings that we have.
Everything is determined by how we think...how we choose to think and what we choose to focus on. Whether it's the blessings or the difficulties, it truly is up to YOU to determine what your level of happiness is in this life.
If you're struggling and feel stuck and just can't get to that mindset, this is what works for me:
Go and serve and be in situations with those...
This was the moment I decided to change my situation:
I was 10 years old, sweeping off the sidewalk outside the back door of our broken down old farmhouse. My verbally and physically abusive alcoholic father pulled in driving his old beat up Rambler with a case of beer, and my mom headed out to Bingo.
In that moment, I promised myself: “this will not be my life!”
I made the decision that I would do whatever I could to change my situation.
Since then, I did well in sales jobs, graduated from GA State with an MBA having never gone to undergrad, married the most amazing man, had 2 beautiful children, and a career I love.
Of course, there’s other stuff in between but the point is:
If someone had shown me this life when I was a little girl, it would have been completely foreign.
Sometimes when I walk our dog, I challenge myself to see our neighborhood and my life through the eyes of that little girl and realize how far I’ve come...
There is a group of girlfriends whom I’ve known for a few decades and are like sisters; recently a couple of those friends had conflict and miscommunication…
And it affected the friendships of the entire group.
Has this ever happened to you?
People you love don’t see eye to eye...then expect you to take sides?
Do you “dig in your heels” or address the issue head-on?
Here are 7 simple guidelines on what to do when relational conflict arises.
As I sit in the waiting room for my routine dental cleaning, the draw of my smartphone is like a magnet; I just can’t help myself!
As I scroll through the newsfeed to see what everyone is up to, the emotional ups and downs I feel are very subtle, at almost a subconscious level.
I snap out of it as my hygienist calls my name, and as I close the app it occurs to me that my happiness meter has dropped down a notch.
Does this happen to you? Are you aware when it does happen to you?
If you check your social media often, it is likely that you feel twinges of disappointment and discontent - even though it is fun to see what everyone is up to!
But there are the posts about a group of friends getting together for a concert that you weren’t invited to…
The family that has the photos from their exotic Mediterranean cruise…
The married couple that is constantly posting...